Have you ever wondered, Dear Reader, why it’s difficult to obtain something (sometimes even simple things) from other people? And to land a date with a quality woman? And a well-paying job at a good company?
Today, I’ll explain to you why. In so doing, I will reveal an uncomfortable secret about most people on this planet – and about how the world works.
And I’ll do it for free.
After you read what it is, you’ll understand why people often demand enormous effort of you, and enormous rewards from you, to obtain something from them – sometimes the most banal things. Why people won’t help you out even when you need them. Why decent, well-paying jobs are hard to obtain. Why landing a date with quality women is also hard. And thus, how to obtain all of these and thus become successful.
So what is the reason? What is the secret?
Here it is:
The vast majority (around 90-95%) of people on this planet are egoists. They’re selfish. They don’t care about anyone except themselves and their families. The only thing they care about is their self-interest (or at least what they believe is in their interest). They don’t give a damn about anything except what they want. They don’t care about anything except their own feelings, emotions, desires, and plans.
Therefore, these people don’t give a damn about you… unless they need you.
They will interact with you, and give you something, only if they need you or if you can give them something they value.
This is not right or wrong, merely natural. This is the way the world works.
Now, as I said, other people aren’t even willing to interact with you, let alone give you something, unless YOU can offer them something they truly value.
A company won’t hire you for a position unless you have all the skills, qualifications, and experience needed to perform that job well. A beautiful, intelligent woman won’t date you unless you are interesting and attractive to her (i.e. unless you are good-looking, healthy, physically fit, have a good sense of humor, and share at least some of her interest).
And even ordinary people – all of them except your closest friends and family members – won’t give you something you need, and won’t help you out in need, unless YOU give them something they want in return.
Remember, at least 90% of all people on this planet are egoists. Selfish people. They care only about getting what they want. They don’t give a damn about what you want. In fact, the vast majority of them couldn’t care less about your existence unless you have something they need.
So how to succeed with such people? How to succeed in this world full of selfish people who care only about themselves?
- Firstly, you must have something that would be of value to many people – especially the people whom you know you will need something from. (Obviously, that means figuring out early on WHO you’ll need smth from.)
- Secondly, you must figure out how to “barter” with people – how to exchange what you have for what you want from other people.
As to the first point: you’ll need to become attractive to people. Especially to potential employers and to women. You’ll need to acquire specific skills, qualifications, and experience necessary to obtain employment at companies that pay well, and you’ll need to work very hard, to the best of your ability and the maximum of your stamina, to earn a lot. To attract women, you need to be physically fit, healthy, clean (those are the absolute prerequisites), funny, and interesting (do interesting things in your life). Other kinds of people will often demand physical things, or some quid pro quo, from you.
And as regards the second point, you must know how to use your skills, experience, and positive traits and characteristics to other people’s benefit – to give them what they want – so that they give you want you want in return (assuming you’re dealing with honest people).
In other words, what exactly do you have to offer to other people, and how exactly can you put it to use so that other people will see a benefit in using your services?
What do you have to offer, and how will others benefit if they “buy” what you have to offer?
Think of yourself as a salesman in everything you do.
Also, think of yourself everyday as a country which has resources it can sell others, as well as needs for commodities it needs but doesn’t have and must import them from others.
Think of yourself as a country which must find a profitable market for what it has to offer, and develop a way to sell it, so that it can import what it needs.
If you intend to apply for a job, read the posting carefully and think: do you meet all the requirements? How will hiring you benefit the company? How will it profit if it hires you instead of the dozens of other candidates who have applied for this job?
But, of course, you can succeed with other people only if you already have something to offer that they value.
Companies value experience, skills, and formal qualifications (such as a driver’s and a forklift operator’s license).
Quality women value physically fit, funny, interesting guys.
If you don’t have something that these, or other, people value, you will never succeed in this world.
So, whether your goal is to land a well-paying job or win the heart of a quality woman, you need to have something they highly value. Without it, you’ll be an irrelevant nobody to them. To 90% of the people around you.
You need to be desirable from the start.
If you are not, you will never be successful in life.
A guy who applies for a job for which he lacks the requisite experience or formal qualifications will not obtain that job – unless and until he gets qualified for that job.
A guy who is a dirty slob, a boring or deadly serious guy, or who doesn’t lead an interesting life, will never get to date quality women – unless he seriously changes his life.
A guy who wants A from someone who needs B, but doesn’t have B to offer, will never obtain A.
So take inventory: What qualifications, skills, and experience do you have? What are your personal traits and physical characteristics? What do you do in your spare time?
Then ask yourself: what do other people (those that you want something from) need, and what do they want from you?
Then: How to exchange something you have to offer for something they have?